This past Sunday, I shared several sites and resources on positive parenting during the MamasTimeOut© show.Positive Parenting includes parenting with discipline. Discipline involves teaching with consistency, rules and consequences, but not physical punishment. Educators are expected to use this form of discipline in the classroom.
Some examples of positive discipline include:
- rewards system
- taking away privileges
- using time-out consistently and appropriate for age level (ie: 1 min per age under 5)
- spanking, physical punishment
- yelling, demeaning a child
- emotional abuse
• What does good discipline look like?
- Give positive guidance.
- Redirect or change child's actions.
- Set clear-cut limits.
- Foster child's ability to become self-disciplined.
- Explain natural consequences (Example: misuses toy, toy breaks, can’t use it anymore).
- Give logical consequences of an action (Example: not being able to play in sandbox for a time as a consequence of throwing sand).
- Recognize and model desired behavior.
- For children 3 years of age and over, implement short “time outs” for calming down and problem solving; children should never be isolated in a separate room, closet, etc.
- Positive guidance–
- Classroom rules, expectations and activities that are realistic for the age of the children–
- Limits, consequences and choices that children understand, and that promote self-discipline–
- Limits and consequences that are consistent and applied equally to all children–
- Desired behavior modeled by caregivers–
• Examples of Positive Discipline
- Example: “Just Walk….Thank You!” instead of “Don’t Run!”
- Example: The caregiver distracts children who are fighting over one toy, by suggesting additional toys or materials that create an opportunity for each child to have a cooperative role. “What if Angelo were to fill the dump truck with sand and Kira were to drive it? Angelo could wait for the load at the construction site, and then you could build a new school together.”
- Example: Long waits between activities may upset the group and cause the caregiver to resort to yelling. Examine cause and effect, and you’ll notice that the problem of unruly children may be triggered by lack of planning on the part of adults.
- Example: “If you’re not sleepy, you may read a book or listen to a story with headphones on your cot, but you may not get up and run around while other children are sleeping.”
- Example of what not to see: An active child is often monitored closely, and punished frequently, while the quiet child can “get away with” the very same behavior without consequence.
- Example: Caregivers show patience, honesty, courtesy, generosity, turn taking, thoughtfulness and other good qualities with both adults and children.
• Why is positive discipline important?
- Children need understandable guidelines for their behavior. This gives them skills to develop self control for their behavior; a critical skill they will need through life.
- Consistency is important. Children learn what is appropriate.
- Discipline given in equitable manner, encourages children to be fair.
- Children learn to respect property, assume personal responsibility and responsibility for others.
• What kind of discipline is prohibited in child care?
Below is a list of more top sites I came across which parents might find useful.
What is Positive Parenting?
Parenting Your ADD ADHD Child - Positive Parentingfor ADD
Impact of Music Therapy to Promote Positive Parenting
Welcome to MVParents.com
Positive Parenting at Natural Family Online magazine
Power of Positive Parenting— Free Online Course Materials
Positive parenting: Discover a range of materials that promote