Sunday, October 03, 2010

Bitter Sweet:A Dying Mother's Wishlist To Be Fulfilled For Husband and Two Young Sons #parents #kids #amplify

I came across this touching story on amplify today, posted by @ncoutlander. While it is a great idea to create a wish list or video of things you wish for your kids as some have done, it is a bitter sweet story.

Her husband plans to fulfill her 100 'to do' wishes, but the hardest will be finding someone new. I can't imagine feeling that you lost your soulmate, the mother or father of your children, and then having to find someone to replace them. I don't know what I would do without my loving husband. He is so kind, generous, funny and patient with us, even when he does get a little angry or upset. He is a great provider and a true life partner. He has helped with caring for our sons since day one. He was in the delivery room when they were both born and he saw me through a difficult last few months of pregnancy each time. He is always supportive and helpful. He cooks, cleans and brings home the bacon so that I can stay at home with the boys or be there for them when they come home from school. I know one day soon I will have to return to work full-time, since we sacrifice a lot with me staying home, but my husband knew and respected my choice to stay at home before we even got married.

Anyway, I didn't mean to ramble so much about my life...but the point is that I would deeply feel lost without my husband but would definitely want the best for him and my two sons if something were to happen to me and I am confidant that he would take excellent care of them. Making a list of 100 things I would want for them might be difficult at first, but I'm sure I could come up with many. What would you want for your kids??

Amplify’d from

Dying mother left poignant wishlist for husband and sons

Dying mother left poignant wishlist for husband and sons

A collect photo of Kate Greene with her sons Reef and Finn at a beauty spot in Llantwit Major
Kate Greene with her sons Reef and Finn at a beauty spot in Llantwit Major. Photograph: SWNS.COM/SWNS

A dying mother left a touching “to do list” for her husband to make sure her young sons do not miss out on the treats she had dreamed of for them and are brought up as she would have wished.

Kate Greene died of cancer aged 37, leaving Finn, four, and Reef, six, but not before she had completed her “mum’s manual” containing 100 “to do” points.

Included are specific experiences she wanted the boys to enjoy such as visiting the beach she loved as a child, attending an international rugby match and going to Switzerland where her husband, St John, proposed to her. She wanted to make sure they would find a four-leaf clover, learn to play a musical instrument and grow sunflowers.

Greene decreed that the family should have a dining table so they always eat together and stipulated that both boys should be kissed goodnight twice before going to sleep.

She outlined basic principles she wanted instilled in the boys, such as always being on time, treating girlfriends with respect and making up after a row.

And she spelled out that they should not smoke, ride motorbikes or join the armed forces.

She urged her husband to find another wife so the boys would grow up with a woman.

St John Greene intends to fulfil everything on the list and has already bought a dining table for their home in Clevedon, Somerset.

He has booked flights to Egypt and plans to take the boys to Dublin to watch Ireland play England in the Six Nations.

He said: “Losing Kate was more devastating than words can describe but by carrying out all the wishes on the list we still have an emotional tie. I’ve already done as much on the list as possible and we plan to do the lot.”

Kate Greene had 18 months of chemotherapy after finding a lump in her left breast. Her husband said: “I think towards the end we both knew Kate’s time was up. We’ve known each other since we were children and didn’t need to say the words. We just knew.

“Then one night she became really frightened she wouldn’t make it through the night, we stayed up chatting and at about 4am we drew up the wishlist of things I had to do with the boys.

“Kate would carry a pen and paper around with her to note down ideas and we would stay up talking about things we wanted the boys to do.

During her final days when she became too ill to write, she would leave phone messages, which her husband dutifully recorded.

Mr Greene said the most challenging wish would be to find another partner.

“The most difficult is, without doubt, finding someone else,” he said.

“I have already found my soulmate and to be back on the market is very difficult to deal with.”

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