Hard to believe a toddler at age two would believe they are a boy when they were born a girl??Makes you wonder what they have been exposed to. I find it hard to understand this being a real problem/diagnosis at such a young age. I don't think even by five kids really understand the differences between what makes boys and girls different. A lot of times they still enjoy the same games,toys&interests throughout childhood&into puberty.
She first insisted she was a boy at the age of 2. "I am a boy" became a constant theme in struggles over clothing, bathing, swimming, eating, playing. Eventually, a psychologist diagnosed gender identity disorder. Now Tyler 's parents allow him to live as a boy, and the 5-year-old is reveling in his new identity. (The Post is using the name his parents would have given him if he had been born a boy to protect the family's identity outside their community, where their situation already is widely known.) (Whitney Shefte/The Washington Post)I spoke with someone recently who went through a sex change because they believed they were meant to be a woman from a very young age. 'She' said she struggled with it for years&had lots of migraines which are more common in women then men. She said her dad was a medical doctor and believed that perhaps she was born with more female hormones, and that was the cause for her migraines.
Her father believed that the increased hormones may have been caused by the fact that 'she' was born a twin, but she was the only surviving twin. Her sister died in utero. As an adult, she eventually had testing done and was allowed to go through surgery to change genders. I guess it is not something they let people 'choose' lightly,but after certain hormone testing and psychiatric care they approve it. She said she is happier now,but has a hard time with acceptance because her daughter hasn't opened up to her&won't allow her to see her grandkids.
I think it's horrible if people really grow up with this mental confusion and I truly believe it is more mental than genetic or hormonal,but this was the first time I have heard of it being related to increased estrogen in a male, due to being a twin.I wonder if this little girl,Kathryn, has been checked for increased male hormones and whether she was a twin?
I was shocked to hear that at age five her mom has already told 'her' that she can get a sex change after 'she' turns 18. I think any talk about gender issues should wait until after a child at least reaches puberty. In addition, as we grow older we evolve in our interests. I was a tomboy as a kid, but as I grew up I developed an interest in dolls too&became more 'girly'&wore dresses. But, I still enjoyed playing trucks, hot wheels&making roads in the yard with my only brother. I think kids can choose to play anything they are interested in as they grow up&that parents need to enforce the 'normal' dress habits for kids, just like we teach them to wear shorts in summer and coats&gloves in winter.
They may not want to wear what we pick for them but they have to realize we are the ones who teach them to dress appropriately,just as we teach them to eat,brush their teeth &how to use the bathroom.I don't think parents should encourage children to choose what they wear,especially if it is not sufficient for the occasion or their gender.
Once a child reaches puberty&is still 'confused' it might be time to see a psychiatrist or get some spiritual help, but I think it is way too early to let a child direct their upbringing and lifestyle at age five, let alone at age two when they barely know how to talk. Also, according to the article,80% of gender confused children end up switching back to what their biology tells them. The other 20 percent remain transgender into adulthood.
What would you do if your son or daughter insisted they were the opposite gender,at such a young age??
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